The time is now

The time is now

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.”     — Henry David Thoreau:

“Things that can be done at any time are often done at no
time” says the wise and inspiring Gretchen Rubin.  For me, that sentence seems to hold a lot of
truth.  Think about where you live for
example.  There are fabulous things to do
in the place you live, but because they are close by and you can do it anytime,
often, you don’t do them at all. 
I think it is the same with goals or things we want to
achieve in our lives.  I have always
wanted to write, and that is how this blog came about.  I’m very happy writing away, sharing thoughts
and stories with you all.  But I’ve
always dreamt of writing a novel.  It has
been something that I have always thought I could do….someday.  Well, the time is now!  I don’t want all my “someday’s” to slip by
and never make the time to do it.  So in
an effort to be creative, and connect to who it is that I want to be, I’m going
to give it a go. 
So why now?  I have
always wanted to do it.  I feel like
right now I have the space to try.  It
seemed a bit serendipitous that I discovered Bullet Journaling, started
following a few random BuJo’ers, and three of them mentioned NaNoWriMo (which I
had never heard of before). 
National Novel Writing Month (http://nanowrimo.org/)
is an annual event, where for each day for the month of November, you commit to
writing 1,667 words.  At the end of the
month, you have yourself a 50,000 word novel (which is about the length of The Great Gatsby – challenging but
achievable).  There is a supportive community online with
other writers who are taking up the challenge, so you don’t feel like you are
doing it alone. 
What a great idea! 
Just four weeks commitment and I might achieve a goal I’ve had for a
long time.  I want my children to see
that you can achieve what you want to out of life.  I am trying to teach my perfectionist son
that it is ok to just give it a go, do your best, even if what comes out of it isn’t
worthy of public consumption!  Maybe, I
can inspire someone else to have a go at something they have been putting off
until “the right time”.  The right time
is now everyone! 
I am under no illusions that it will be easy.  I am going to have to sacrifice other
activities in order to achieve 50,000 words. 
However, I really, really am keen to give it a go.  I just want to know if I can actually write
that many words!  I’m not even sure yet
what it is that my novel will be about, I plan to just sit and write each day
and see what comes.  I’ve read some books
by authors who plan their novel from the beginning, but I think for this first
go, I’m just going to wing it.  Who knows….
Maybe my 50,000 words will be the beginnings of a number of novels.  I’m not sure exactly where the month will
take me, but I’m very much looking forward to giving it a red hot go!  Even if nothing spectacular comes out of this
first month of writing, it will set up a good writing habit for me that might
lead to something better. 
So if I’m a bit quieter than usual, please forgive me! 
Vintage Black and white photography:
Photo credit from masaism.tumblr.com


Normally I would be a bit quiet about this kind of challenge
and not share that I was planning to do it with the world.  I guess we all face the fear of failure, and
often I think it doesn’t matter if I fail and I’m the only one to know about
it.  I have recently discovered that I am
an Obliger in Gretchen Rubin’s 4 Tendencies framework (see this post about it
here or go to her website here).  Rubin’s
book Better than Before outlines the
four tendencies and strategies that might be helpful for each in building and
maintaining habits.  I really enjoyed the
book and have found it useful in knowing myself better and finding ways to make
life easier. 
Obligers have no trouble meeting external accountability,
but find it difficult to meet inner expectations (so we are awesome at meeting
work deadlines, but find it hard to keep our own New Year’s resolutions).  Rubin suggests one of the ways for Obligers
to succeed is to impose external accountability on themselves (join Weight Watchers
if you are trying to lose weight, go to the gym with a friend if you are trying
to be fitter, be in a book club if your goal is to read more etc.).  And that is why I have signed up to NaNoWriMo
and am sharing my goal here.  I have to
regularly check in with NaNoWriMo informing them of my word count, and I will
do the same with you here with a weekly post about how I am going.  Feel free to message me or comment on the
blog to keep me accountable and encourage me to keep going.     I am
really hoping Rubin is right and that having this external accountability will
be the thing that makes this new habit stick. 
I am imposing a rule on myself this month to never miss two
days of writing in a row.  Sometimes,
life gets in the way, and I just won’t be able to get it done.  If I miss more than one day, it will be just
too hard to catch up and I will likely stop. 
So please encourage me to keep up the momentum! 
I would love to hear what are things are on your list to do
anytime/sometime?  Want to join me in
committing to doing it sometime in November? 
Do you have any ideas for plot lines for my novel?  Or interesting characters you would like to
see feature in the story?  Would you like
to join in NaNoWriMo with me?  Comment
below or on the Creative Calm Connected Facebook page. 
Until next time,

E xx
Sunday Funday

Sunday Funday

Do you have a list of things you would like to do on the
weekends or places you would like to see, and find that, like us, weekends get
filled up doing all the little things we don’t do during the week and that list
of fabulous fun things never gets done?  I
love weekends, because it is time that we get to spend together, which is even
more precious now our son is at school. 
But I’ve felt for a while now that we tend to do the same thing every
weekend.  And I was a little bit
bored.  There are so many things that we
say to each other we’d like to do, and we somehow were never making the time to
do them.
So, a little while ago, I suggested to my little family that
we should do Sunday Fun Day!  We would write down all the ideas we have of
places we want to go or things we want to do on a Sunday, put them in a jar,
and each week, pick one out and do it! 
Easy!  We used our trip to the
coast recently to come up with ideas, and we made sure that everyone was able
to contribute.  There are some things in
there that not all four of us would have chosen, but we agreed in the interests
of fairness we would give every suggestion a try.  The suggestions needed to be achievable in a
day, and locations needed to be within an easy drive of Canberra. 
We draw out the coming Sunday’s activity sometime during the
week so we can prepare if needed (e.g. a day trip to the beach would need us to
pack beach toys, towels, sun cream etc. the night before so we can leave early
in the morning), or if it is a weather dependent activity, we can choose
something else if the forecast looks grim. 
Last week we had drawn out a visit to the Arboretum but as we were having breakfast, we had a call from our son’s best friend (our Goddaughter) inviting us to the zoo.  We were all excited, and because the zoo is also in our Sunday Fun Day jar, we decided we would do it.  What a great way to kick off the new tradition than with close friends (who are our special chosen family anyway). 
Best friends 

I love being stuck in between these two!
We have loved going to the zoo since our son was
little.  He has always really enjoyed it,
so we are members and go often.  Recently
there have been a lot of upgrades and it is a really lovely place to wander
around.  We have been a few times since
our daughter was born, but Sunday was the first time that she noticed and got
excited about the animals.  She
particularly loved the fish in the aquarium, and made lots of animal noises as
we meandered around looking at the different animals. 
It was really relaxing to spend the day with our beautiful
friends.  These friends mean the world to
me.  We have been through a lot together
in the time we’ve known each other and they have a special place in my
heart.  It was so good to be able to
watch not only the kids happy faces, but also to see my Soul sister and her
husband relaxed and enjoying the day. 
Soul Sisters

If our first Sunday Fun Day was anything to go by, I can
already tell that this is a great way for our family to feel creative, calm and
connected.  I can’t wait to find out what
this Sunday’s activity will be!
What do you think of the Sunday Fun Day idea?  What ideas would you put in your Sunday Fun
Day jar?  Comment below (I am pretty sure
the comments should FINALLY work properly now!) or on the Creative Calm
Connected Facebook page. 
Until next time,

E xx

Wise Words Wednesday

Oops!  A day late!  Here’s this week’s thought to ponder:

What do you think? Comment below on on the Creative Calm Connected Facebook Page.

E xx

Where do all the comments go?  Please help!!

Where do all the comments go? Please help!!

Beach Wedding Message in a Bottle for the guests to leave marriage advice for the newly weds to read on their anniversary by lucile:
Image credit:  Indulgy.com 
So, it has come to my attention lately that people have been trying to post comments on the blog, but they have disappeared into thin air and never been published.  I have been investigating and it seems that it mainly happens with people using their Apple devices, I have no idea why. 
I have changed some settings around, so would love if some of you might leave some comments below so we can test if I have things right? 
So, what are your plans for the weekend?  Maybe you might like to introduce yourself to others that read the blog?  What are you loving lately?  Are there any burning issues you would like us to discuss on this blog?  Lets just have a chat over the weekend and see where we end up? 

I would love to hear from you (especially Iphone users) to see if I have it fixed….. 

So here’s my chat to get us started: 
My weekend looks like it is shaping up to be a good one.  Wine time tonight (I always enjoy a Friday night bevvy to unwind!), the school fete tomorrow (head on down to St Francis of Assisi Calwell from 10am til 3pm if you are in Canberra and say hi) and Sunday Funday on Sunday (of course! There will be a post on this coming up soon).  What are you up to?
I have to share with you a new Podcast I am loving – The Well.  Thankyou so much to my soul sister for recommending it to me.  It reminds me a lot of the chats I have with my sister. The Well is Mamamia’s answer to the “wellness” craze – a podcast all about how to live a better life, but without giving up bread, your phone or your sanity.  You can check it out here.  It makes me laugh, cry, nod my head, and talk back to my ipod making me look like a crazy woman!! What podcasts do you love?  
This week my daughter and I have been a little unwell with a silly cold and sore throat. I have been busy in my down time trying to teach myself how to successfully use my sewing machine ( an activity I thought would be “restful” while I was feeling unwell…. How wrong I was!).  I am attempting my first quilt.  Are there any experienced quilters out there? Linda??????  I’m attempting (what I thought would be) a simple block quilt.  How do I get all the squares to match up?  I have sewed my blocks into rows and now need to sew the rows together, but it seems like my rows are bowed!! I’m already calling it my perfectly imperfect quilt because I am sure that is how it is going to end up!! If it almost works out I might even do a post about it (if it’s not too embarrassing!!).
What else?  What was something that made you feel good this week?  I got some happiness when I dropped my daughter at childcare and she was happy as Larry to be there.  (BTW, Larry is really happy!)  I also got a bit of a boost from sneaking in two catch ups with my favourite Sister this week!  Seeing my son excited about his first school fete brings me joy, as well as looking forward to spending time with Hubby and the kids this weekend.  
Don’t forget to comment below so I know if the setting changes fixed the problem, and so I’m not just that crazy woman talking to herself again (but there’s nothing wrong with that right?!?!?!). 
E xx
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Wise Words Wednesday

Wise Words Wednesday

Danielle LaPorte:
Image credit:  Danielle LaPorte via Pinterest 

You all know I am a massive fan of Danielle LaPorte.  She does this thing called Daily Truthbombs  (you can sign up here) and this one really spoke to me.  The problem with saying yes to everyone else is that you are saying no to what you want to be doing….you cant do everything!  It is hard to say no sometimes (especially if you are like me and suffer FOMO!!) but I think we are all better off when we can make at least a little time to say yes to ourselves.  

Have a happy day
E xx