An apology and a promise

An apology and a promise

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I got taught a valuable lesson the other day.  Pulled down a peg or two.  And I was absolutely mortified at the way it
happened.    
I have really been working hard lately on being more
present, trying to experience each moment, really be here.  And I thought I was doing really well.  I have been worrying about things less, felt
calmer, and have noticed more.  I have
been enjoying time with the children more, seeing smiles on people’s faces as I
pass them, and the spring flowers starting to bloom. 
However, I have much more work to do. 
 Friday was Daffodil Day. 
It was also the day before my son’s 6th birthday party.  I was busy, but organised, had my list sorted
and knew I had enough time to do it all. 
I had dropped my daughter at childcare, was heading into the grocery
store to pick up a few party supplies, and I noticed the beautiful daffodils at
the fundraising stand.  I must buy a couple of bunches on the way
out
I thought to myself. 
Feeling a bit like Supermum, I flew around getting
everything on the list, stopped to chat to a Grandma I know from Kinder, smiled
at the person guarding the self-service checkouts and headed to get my
daffodils.  “Hi how are you?” she
asked.  “Good thanks” I replied as I
searched the bunches for the prettiest flowers. 
Got out my money and handed it over. 
To my horror*, a beautiful friend was sitting there, I had been so up in
my head that I failed to notice her.  I
had spoken to her, without looking at her. 
I had just done the thing that I hate so much.  Having worked in retail for a long time in my
younger days, I really hated that “being invisible” feeling I got when
customers looked at me but didn’t see me.  You can tell when someone isn’t paying you
the attention you are worthy of.  You
feel it.  There isn’t that connection
there.  That exchange of energy that
lifts each of you up.  I had just made my
friend feel that exact same way and I hated myself in that moment for doing
that.  She, and everyone else that we
come across in our busy lives, is worthy of our attention.  Worthy of eye contact, a pleasant smile, a
quick conversation before we get on with our busy lives.  We are not robots, devoid of feelings, giving
our all to receive nothing in return. 
I stopped, took a breath, apologised and gave her the
attention she deserved.  Gracious as
ever, she smiled back at me, we chatted, and carried on with our days.  From the bottom of my heart Dani, I apologise
again.  And I thank you for being there
that day to teach me that I still have more to learn.  I may be doing ok and have come a long way,
but there is still work to be done. 
So will you all join me in a challenge this week?  Will you promise, as I do, to be really
present in your interactions with others? 
Will you give eye contact, a smile, a little moment of your day to the
person you are interacting with?  At the
grocery store, the clothes shop, the post office, work, school and more?  Will you help that person you are with feel a
little less invisible? 
Let me know how you go? 
Comment below or on facebook (search Creative Calm Connected). 
We can do this!
E xx
*(I wasn’t horrified that my friend was there, just that I hadn’t
seen her)
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The magic happens when you listen

The magic happens when you listen

Yesterday was a near perfect day for me.  Our little family headed off to the beach for
a day trip. We often make these trips now, because it isn’t that far to go and
we always have a good time.  A trip to
the ocean seems to rejuvenate us all, calm us and help us spend some really
happy time together without being at home worrying about what we “should” be
doing instead. 
I was thinking about why yesterday was so magical for
me.  The weather wasn’t perfect (until
late afternoon), we left later than we wanted to, but none of that could get to
me yesterday.  I think that what made it
perfect was that it was a truly creative,
calm, connected
day.  We were all
relaxed and happy (calm!).  There was a
really nice connection between us all, we all seemed so present, so in the
moment, not consumed by anything else (connected!).  And we got to do lots of favourite things
(morning tea at our favourite café, lunch at the beach, spending a lazy
afternoon on the sand).  My husband and I
even had a little time where each of us could take some photos (creative!).
It really was an example of how, when we do the work, listen
to what our hearts want, name it, and then do it, your heart and soul really have
the opportunity to come alive.  I kept
thinking yesterday to myself and the universe “more of this please”.   And I hope there are plenty more days like it
to come. 
Here are some photos I took yesterday.  I hope you all have a calm and happy day.
E xx

What do I know for sure?

What do I know for sure?

This photo was taken by my husband on our honeymoon in the Cook Islands 
I am in the middle of doing the Reconnect Program with Amy
Taylor-Kabbaz (which I can highly recommend, it’s my second time doing it),
which is designed for Mum’s to reconnect with who they really are and to live a
more happy, mindful life.  This week’s
focus is trust.  One of our exercises is
to ask ourselves what do I know for sure?
So, what do I know for sure? 
Love ✿⊱╮: I know for sure that I love my children with a passion that I never knew possible. I know for sure that my husband loves me. I know for sure that I have wonderful parents who love and support me in all that I do.
I know for sure that I am worthy of loving and being
loved. 
I love the idea of keeping a gratitude journal, however I
know for sure that I am crap at keeping a journal! Despite this, I know for
sure that I am grateful every day for being alive and for all my blessings.
I know for sure that the first cup of tea of the day always
tastes the best.
I know for sure that seeing a beautiful sunset always calms
me.
I know for sure that I will always choose spending time with
a friend over doing housework!
I know for sure that Pilates is a true exercise in
mindfulness for me.
I know for sure that I should always trust my
instincts.  They have never been wrong
yet.
I know for sure that I get my energy from being around
people. 
I know for sure that to be the best mother, wife, friend,
daughter, employee I need to do things for myself and occasionally have some me
time.  I also know for sure that I don’t need
to feel guilty about this. 
I know for sure that I can point my fingers and do the twist
just as well as the Wiggles can!
I know for sure that I believe in love, and in the power
that love has to change the world. 
I could keep going forever! 
But I can’t right now.  I need to
have dinner so that I can go and spend some much needed time with beautiful
friends tonight.  So how bout you take
over?  What do you know for sure?  What can you trust in with your whole
heart?  Comment below or on Facebook at
Creative Calm Connected. 

E xx